“It is better to give than to receive.”
I heard this often. But really???
Personally I think to be mindful and to give someone, one must first learn how to receive and give unconditionally to oneself. Why do I say that?
Most of the times we heard couples argue “You don’t understand me!” “But I give you the best!”
To give someone, we can be more mindful of he/she and to do that, we can practice to be mindful of our own self, what we give to ourselves and how we receive it. When we can give ourselves and know how to receive it, we are in touch and more aware of our being, our needs and wants, what we think and what we truly need. And when we receive it with grace and gratitude, and the more we feel it within us, trusting the richness of what we already have, we give without expectation, we give not out of fear or power, we give knowing the abundance and richness of the universe.
We give more mindfully of who the person we are giving to.
The universe gifts us every single day, do you receive it every single day?
A practice – from the book “Mindfulness meditation in everyday life” by Jon Kabat-Zinn:
See if you can give yourself gifts that may be true blessings, such as self-acceptance, or give yourself some time each day with no purpose. Practice feeling deserving enough to accept these gifts without obligation – to simply receive from yourself and from the universe.