NLP Singapore Experience: Anchoring A Powerful NLP Technique To Resolving Challenges
Do you have a life’s toolbox, where you can just pick a tool you are familiar with, and use it to manage life’s challenges and obstacles? This is what I’ve experienced this week in Singapore and applying one of the techniques of NLP – using anchors or triggers of memories to assist in a stucked situation.
Last week I came back from a self renewal trip in Phuket, relaxing and be very present – engaging with myself, with other people and the energy around the place. I was recharged, and renewed with new perspective, especially about what I interact with Phuket in this trip.
And upon coming back home, I was struck with a family drama, typical conflicts in the family. This time I realised I was able to “switch state” very effectively. The thing about emotions and feeling down is that, we need to be able to pick up from the negative state and not dwell into it too long, causing vicious cycle and not achieving any positive outcome from it. This is easier said, but could be easier done too – just allow. The subconscious mind will throw you with voices saying “no, I can’t switch” , counter it with “ok, what if I could do…”. To switch state, is to be able to first establish this awareness and acceptance about our emotions. It is a major first step.
No judgement or blaming, allow that we are feeling what we feel. And then ask the right question – what if I could do and think something else? What is something humourous in my memories, my toolbox? This is a critical point in changing the current emotional state to a positive proactive one – anchoring, switching state, so as to start the search for solutions in our personal toolbox, empowering us to move one more step forward.
My personal toolbox consists of “anchors“. Anchors are uplifting triggers of memories of words or situations that bring a smile to my face – in this case, I was frustrated with the situation and hurtful remarks, so I picked up a “tool” that is creating humor and a light-hearted perspective – hitting my forehead (do not worry, it’s only a slight tap on the forehead :). There is a story behind this act of hitting my forehead – the first time my husband saw me do this, I was trying to tell the taxi driver where I was going and couldn’t remember the street name, and at that instance, I hit my forehead habitually, and he just couldn’t help laughing about this behavior as if hitting the forehead would help me remember it. His laughter has always associated with this act of hitting the forehead, and it brought a smile on my face and heart.
To bring myself out of the down moments, I picked up this act, as if to hit my forehead lightly to “not think too much further” and brought me to a different state – remembering the laughter from my husband for doing this and immediately a light-hearted moment surrounded me. This awareness to pick up an anchor is one crucial point to help pull me out of a not so useful state to one of more positive and calm.
Life is not what it is, but how we manage it that which creates the experience for us. Empower yourself by collecting and creating a series of useful “anchors” in your own personal toolbox – positive memories or anchors, so that you know you can open it and see what you can use effectively to lift you up and create a useful and positive empowering journey.